During the fight of our lives, one of the facts that Susan took great satisfaction in was that she had beaten all of the dire predictions. In truth, the predictions about life expectancy or prognosis were shielded from us. Dr. Matai and her team simply didn’t go there, ever. I think I can understand this (I could be wrong) but I believe they don’t like to give false hope – or squelch true hope. Much is written about how patients with truly serious disease can beat it and how the power of prayer, ferocious will to live, and an unstoppable positive spirit can be as or more beneficial than the toxic poisons they pump in.
So, coming up on the third anniversary of the weekend that changed our lives, Susan announced that it was party time! A celebration was in order to commemorate three years of living with and thus beating the cancer that had changed our lives. And so, Susan being Susan, she took control and planned a party!!
First of all, the menu. She vetoed my offer of cooking and said that we were all taking the day off. She googled the menu at Texas Roadhouse and promptly ordered pulled pork; cornbread, beans, salads and all of her favorite sides. Next, the guest list; all of the folks and family who had stood by her through all of these days. Jimmy, Marilyn, Terri, Chris, Jan and Roger were invited and those who could joined Paul and I, Huy and Tan and enjoyed the victorious afternoon. It didn’t matter that the disease was probably winning. It didn’t seem important that Susan sat in her wheelchair for the party. On this Saturday afternoon in October 2012, we declared victory and celebrated. We celebrated loss and gain, new friends, new perspectives, deeper faith, appreciation for family and friends, a wonder child, laughter and joy, but mostly, we celebrated Susan!!
Everyone should throw themselves a party from time to time!!!